You’re in the middle of cooking dinner, typing an email, or loading the dishwasher. Your child asks you to play a game. You ask them to wait until you’re finished.
Young kids live in the moment. And if you are not saying “yes” in the moment, they feel like it won’t happen at all.
Sure, it is important for children to learn how to wait & be patient. They should learn that other people won’t just drop everything to cater to their desires.
They should also learn that they are more important than the dishes.
I am guilty of promising to do activities later that we never end up doing. And it is something that every parent tries to balance.
But if your child is behaving badly more often than not, there is a good chance that they have heard “no” (or just wait, hold on, etc) too often.
Personally, I have much happier children when I try to live in the moment with them. It’s amazing how excited my son gets when I respond to his idea with “Let’s do it!”