The internet is full of success stories. Moms telling about how they got their child to take a bottle, a sippy cup, eat vegetables, sleep through the night, take more naps, give up naps, have a peaceful car ride, transition to daycare, etc, etc, etc. And while these stories can be very helpful in that they provide other moms with new ideas & strategies, success stories very rarely tell the whole story.
How often have you seen a mom go back & update her blog post or forum comment a few months later? A few months later when their child has denied any food besides chicken nuggets smothered in ketchup. A few months later when they are sleeping in their child’s bed b/c it is easier than walking across the hall 5 times a night. A few months later when they try all the same tactics, but their child screams for all 3 hours of the car ride to the beach.
I am guilty of this. I am quick to declare “Success!” However, I am learning that every success should come with a disclaimer that it is likely only temporary success (since we are dealing with children after all).
This is not to say that moms should stop sharing the strategies that have worked for them! I owe a lot of my sanity to mommy bloggers & fellow moms who care enough to share their secrets on searchable forums. But I also don’t think that we should feel defeated when someone else declares “Success!” Instead we can keep in mind that there will be a day someday soon where we are the ones feeling like we are on top of things while someone else is frantically Googling “4 month old suddenly stopped sleeping & needs to be held all day & night every day & night & I just want to sleep.”