I don’t know about you, but I always feel a little bit relieved when I hear a child fussing in church or see a child climbing under a pew. It’s a good reminder that my boys are not the only ones that do not sit quietly during the service. It’s helpful to me to remind myself every once in a while that going to church is a worthwhile experience for our whole family, even if it is a battle some weeks…
1. See your child through everyone else’s eyes.
Trust me, your child is adorable. They are cute when they peek through the pews, they are cute when they loudly state whatever is on their mind, & they are forgivable when they throw their toy into the neighboring pew. However, you getting angry, shushing loudly, or fighting battles you will not win (like trying to get your toddler to fold their hands in prayer) is not cute.
2. Remember that most people have been in your position.
I have many elderly people tell me that they love hearing the babbling voices of children in church. They are glad that future generations are carrying on the importance of faith, & it also brings back fond memories of when their children were young. Churches are made up of imperfect people & families – they all know what it is like to have little ones.
3. Allow your surroundings to uplift you.
Take comfort in seeing the boy 3 pews ahead of you throwing a fit (yours isn’t the only one). Let the Scripture speak to your situation & carry it with you. Hear the genuine & knowing tone of the lady behind you as she shakes your hand & says, “Peace be with you.” Allow your church to be a support & a place of community rather than a stressful place.